Monday, June 28, 2010

Just some of those little things

Ok so I haven't been here for a while. Just want to post some of those little things that bother me so I can get them off of chest and move on.

For starters, if you post a bunch of political garbage in your status that proves you are a RWNJ and people call you on it and you say, "Hey if you don't like my politics unfriend me" - then please keep your yap shut and don't complain when people unfriend you en masse. Not everyone wants to hear your hate speech against the President that amounts to nothing more than either 1) you are truly nothing more than a bigot or 2) you watch nothing but Fox news. Either way -- just shut the hell up.

Secondly, say your god daughter just graduated high school and her father and step mother are throwing a party for her. Her REAL mother and her family are all coming to the party at her father and step mother's house. Well almost all of her family, because you, the god mother, who is also her aunt isn't going to go, neither is your husband - her uncle - because YOU have "A problem" with her step mother.

Where do I even start with this? Let's start with the whole "GOD" thing. So as a god mother - you are responsible for helping with the upbringing of your god child particularly in the area of spiritual matters.

What kind of message does it send when someone refuses to go to a graduation party because you don't like someone who will be there? Well it sends the following messages:

1) Pettiness is OK
2) The role of a god parent is to be played out only when it's convenient for the god parent
3) The role of aunt is only to be played out when it's convenient for the aunt.
4) obviously you think far too highly of yourself and can't manage to get off of your high horse long enough to be respectful to your own niece.

Not exactly what a parent of any sort should be teaching is it?

That is just truly sad.

And to try to put the blame off onto someone else? As in because that person will be there, I won't be...uhhhh no. It's not the other person's fault. It's your own. YOU are the one making the choice. So instead of saying, "I'm not coming because I have a problem with so and so" why not speak the truth? How about "I'm not coming because I'm to immature to put aside my own feelings so that I can support my niece"? That would, after all, be far more accurate. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY for your OWN ACTIONS people. Blaming other people for your choices? Well it's immature, and ignorant. It really doesn't put you in the "holier than thou" light you think it does. It does however make you look like a complete ass.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Sacred Space

I walk barefoot through dew covered grass. The long wet blades curve around my foot, tickling the tops of my feet.

The dew is cold and yet it feels so refreshing on my tired aching feet.

The path winds in and out of trees. Leaves rustle overhead, dripping drops of dew like a gentle summer rain.

I feel cleansed, renewed.

The ground around me is splattered with splurts of color – dainty flowers poke through the green grass in hues of blue, purple, and yellow. They decorate the ground like confetti tossed about.

The trees too are full of life, but in animal form. Birds hop about as I move closer to them.

The squirrel runs to the opposite side of the tree trunk hoping I won’t see him. A chipmunk climbs a stump and curiously watches to see if I’ll leave a treat for him, which of course I do.

A small toad climbs on a tree trunk, not sure where he should go, so he just stays where he is for now.

The path looks as if it comes to end. It stops in front of a wall of foliage. Branches and leaves from both sides forming a protective barrier.

But looking down, it’s clear that the path should go on. I slowly pull each branch back sending a spray of dew drops all over my feet and bare legs. I step further through the maze. Pull back another branch, take another step.

Another branch.

Another step.

Another branch.

Another step.

I emerge into the opening and there I find it, my sacred space.

My home.

Friday, April 23, 2010

Honesty

Why aren’t people more honest? What is the point of lying? Seems to me that people often lie because they afraid to face up to who THEY really are.

Q. Did you _______? (fill in the blank)

Lie: Of course not, I would never ______

Obviously someone doesn’t want you to know that yes, indeed, they are exactly the kind of person who would _________.

As if lying about it makes it untrue.

Some lies are easy to see through, others, well sometimes when we learn the truth we are just completely floored.

How about this one?

Q. Do you want to ________? (Again fill in the blank yourself)

Lie: Sorry I have plans.


Maybe that is easier than the truth. Maybe that’s easier than saying, “No, I really don’t feel like it/like you/want to spend anytime with you whatsoever, you creep me out and I wish you would just go away.

Sometimes lies are told to make other people feel good.

Q. Am I fat?

Lie: Of course not, you look great.

But in the long run, does this lie help anyway? What if the person believes you and ends up dying from an obesity related problem?

How about instead of the lie, try the truth?

“Unfortunately, yes, you are fat. Please work on losing weight and getting healthier so you’re around for a long time. I’d miss you if you were gone, and maybe we can do some working out together.”

Which one sounds like the person cares more?

Sometimes the truth may hurt, but it seems to me in the end, the lie always hurts more.

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Determination

I am determined.

I am determined to get certain things accomplished in my life.

I am determined to find a decent job that will have a regular paycheck.

I am determined to write at least a dozen books in my lifetime.

I am determined to spend a month in Ireland.

And another in England.

And a third in Scotland.

I am determined to read and learn about as much as I can about the topics that interest me.

I am determined to spend time with my friends and let them know how much they mean to me.

I am determined to raise my children to be good people.

I am determined to do my part to help the environment and work on other causes I believe in.

I am determined to save my home from the evils of Bank of America.

I am determined to live a life that I will be proud to have lived when it comes to an end.

I am determined.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Patience

Patience is not one of my virtues.

I’ve never been very good about being patient, and I’m sure it was probably a problem I had in past lives too.

It’s not that I want instant gratification – it isn’t that at all.

No, in fact, I truly believe that anything worth having is worth waiting for.

I think it comes more from me expecting other people to act the way I do, or at least the way I feel is “right”.

For example, over a month ago, I sent out 2 emails to 2 different people requesting information from them. Still no answer, and at this point I doubt I ever will get an answer, and I’ve managed to find the information elsewhere. But still, I never heard back from either person. Not even an “I’m sorry, I can’t help you.”

It’s not even so much the rudeness of not answering – though that is a whole different can of worms – the question was a simple, yes or no question I needed answered for professional reasons. But even though I did get an answer elsewhere, those first few days of waiting was torture.

When I send in proposals or manuscripts – more torture while waiting to hear something, anything.

Applying for jobs – same thing. Torture while waiting to hear something, anything.

Lately my life has been about waiting, always waiting for something.

I can only hope that with all the waiting I’m doing lately, maybe I’ll get a little bit better at being patient.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Fragrances from Dunraven House

Dunraven House

www.dunravenhouse.com

We received so many great products from Morwyn of Dunraven House that we’ve had to break them up into several different reviews.

Earlier we brought you reviews of two of her books, and this week we are reviewing a sampling of her fragrances – these ones in the form of bath salts.

Most of the fragrances from Dunraven House are available as perfumes, bath salts, massage oils and incenses, which means you can combine different forms for a complete magical experience.

The fragrances we are reviewing are: Meditation, Angel Fire, Green Goddess, and Sixth Sense. (Quoted portions are from Dunraven’s descriptions of these products.)

Meditation: “A mellow blend that facilitates the contemplative state and helps your mind focus on Spirit”. This a deeply enticing rich scent that helps you to relax and concentrate on the task at hand.

Angel Fire: “For those who have heeded the sacred call and wish to devote their lives to the path of magickal self-development. Angel Fire draws the fiery spiritual power of the Angelic realms”. Innocent and spicy at the same time, relaxes while it empowers.

Green Goddess: “A tribute to the shimmering lady of field, forest, wood, and meadow. It invokes her all-encompassing love & compassion.” Earthy, with a bit of dew. A walk in the woods with the leaves over head and ferns at your feet after a brief summer rain.


Sixth Sense: “Specific to psychic self-development, clairvoyance, and spirit communication.” I KNOW you are going to love this! A must for any medium or channeler. Use before tarot readings, pendulum sessions or any other divination tasks.

Dunraven House has been in business since 1979. All items are handcrafted by Morwyn herself.

Stop on by this site and pick up a sampling of products for yourself – the small ounce size is just $2.00.

Review info

As the Editor of The Pagan Review, I do lots and lots and lots of product reviews so I've decided I'm going to include those on my blog here too. They are something I write and so they may as well get added in here too!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Seriously now

I really am going to start writing on this more. I promise.

Looking forward to some new adventures on the horizon.

Hoping to hear from Llewellyn about a project soon...

And just to take on something else, I'm going to be the Chicago Pagan Examiner at Examiner.com. Page isn't up yet, but will let everyone know when it is. And I will expect to hear all about the events everyone has planned.

IF the future is what we make it, then I think it's time for me to get working on mine.

Monday, March 22, 2010

Really? I don't buy it!

So in the past 12 hours, I've seen people type and have heard people say things such as:

I believe in helping those people who help themselves. I will be the first to get out there and lend someone a hand if they are willing to help themselves.

To those people I say. BULL.

I'd really like to know how many of those people have taken someone to the er AND paid the bill. How many have allowed a homeless person to live with them. How many have helped out at their local homeless shelter. How many have spent one hour serving lunch at a soup kitchen.

I'm wiling to bet those numbers are VERY VERY VERY low.

You know how I know that? Because if even half the people who claim they are the first to get right out there and help someone actually did, this country wouldn't be in the mess it's in in the first place.

Stop believing the lies that only the lazy need help. It's simply not true It's nothing more than an excuse to justify your lack of action to help out. People say Oh well I would help those who need help if they were willing to help themselves but gee not a single one of the needy out there is trying to help themselves. Again I say BULL.

Open your eyes. The world is what you make it.

Just remember, what goes around comes around. Someday it may be you that needs the helping hand -- who is going to lend it to you?

Monday, February 22, 2010

Yes some times stupidity makes me laugh -- caution, politics attached!

So today I got this little gem of an email that I just wanted to share with everyone -- really it's not as long as it looks.

It's a slow day in a little east Texas town. The sun is beating down, and the streets are deserted. Times are tough, everybody is in debt, and everybody lives on credit. On this particular day a rich tourist from back east is driving through town. He stops at the motel and lays a $100 bill on the desk saying he wants to inspect the rooms upstairs in order to pick one to spend the night.


As soon as the man walks upstairs, the owner grabs the bill and runs next door to pay his debt to the butcher.

The butcher takes the $100 and runs down the street to retire his debt to the pig farmer.

The pig farmer takes the $100 and heads off to pay his bill at the supplier of feed and fuel.

The guy at the Farmer's Co-op takes the $100 and runs to pay his debt to the local prostitute, who has
also been facing hard times and has had to offer her "services" on credit.

The hooker rushes to the hotel and pays off her room bill with the hotel owner.

The hotel proprietor then places the $100 back on the counter so the rich traveler will not suspect anything.

At that moment the traveler comes down the stairs, picks up the $100 bill, states that the rooms are
not satisfactory, pockets the money, and leaves town.

No one produced anything. No one earned anything.

However, the whole town is now out of debt and now looks to the future with a lot more optimism.


And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how the United States Government is conducting business today.




Now what I particularly love about this is the last line "...is how the United States Government is conducting business today". This of course is supposed to be another jab at President Obama, and whether you like him or not - please at least do your homework enough to know what is going on in the world and what has gone on in the world so when you create an email like this you don't look like a complete flipping fool.

Contrary to popular republican opinion, President Obama did NOT indeed start the national deficit. No really. He didn't. It's been around for a long long time. LONG. Seriously.

The national deficit first appeared in 1790 -- when the United States of America was still a babe in diapers. The President at the time? Thomas Jefferson. You know that guy who pretty much wrote the Declaration of Indpendence? He was also a Republican.

So please stop giving President Obama credit for something he did not create. The mess our country is in was inherited by the President, not started by the Presidient. I almost wish he hadn't of won the election, perhaps then the people who started this mess would actually be the ones getting the blame f it.

I also find this funny because it claims this is how the government conducts business. wow. really? And the rest of the country and the world doesn't work this way too?? PLEASE.

Sorry but it just cracks me up. I have to wonder if the person who wrote this is completely self sufficient and has never used credit or paid anyone for anything ever, nor received any payment in return either.

Just plain stupid.

Just remember if you aren't part of the solution you are part of the problem.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Seriously? People are that bad?

I heard back from my agent and the news wasn’t good. She won’t try to sell my latest work and gave several reasons as to why.

I really could have a lot to say about most of the reason she gave me – including the suggestion that I join a writing group. This of course means she assumed I don’t already belong to a writing group, AND that my writing group would also have agreed with her comments. This of course I found extremely interesting since almost every single aspect she commented on was directly related to suggestions from my peers in my writing group in the first place!

However, the one reason that completely floored me the most was being told my characters were basically too supportive.

Let me give a little background. The setting for this book is a small rural town. A place where everyone has grown up together, and known each other since they were little kids. A town where people not only knew their neighbors – they liked and respected them as well.

In the story, a young woman’s husband tragically dies and her brother-in-law and friends come together and help her out.

Wow.

Because of this they are too supportive and therefore this is actually a reason why the book isn’t marketable?

Seriously??

Her exact words were, “Most people just aren't that perceptive and empathic in real life.”

I don’t know where she lives or grew up, but the people I know and love are EXACTLY like that. I could go as far to say if they weren’t like that, I wouldn’t keep them in my life in the first place.

I’m told “the market” wants more conflict.

In current times with so many people unemployed, (unless of course they happen to be bill collectors in which case they have all kinds of work!) losing their homes, wars ripping countries apart, earthquakes devastating islands leaving the death toll in the hundreds of thousands…well really now, don’t we have enough conflict in our everyday lives? When is enough, enough?

I don’t know about you, but I have enough conflict and problems in my life already. I’d like to hear something supporting every now and then. I’d like to know it doesn’t take an entire country being almost shook off the globe, it doesn’t take a hurricane turning a major metropolitan area into a large lake, it doesn’t take airplanes flying into skyscrapers to bring people together to help each other out, especially when those people are your friends and family.

Showing people ARE empathetic and perceptive and supportive – well that’s exactly what everyone in my group wanted to see.

Everyday we are bombarded by bad news – the good news – well it isn’t even considered news. And we wonder why so many people are depressed these days. What do you expect when conflict after conflict after conflict are crammed down their throats? What do people expect when we constantly give attention to the bad and the good gets swept away.

If we aren’t even allowed to have love and support in our recreation time, in the time we take for ourselves to escape from the hell of daily life – how can we be expected to ever be truly happy?

Oh wait.

We aren’t supposed to be happy. Heaven forbid. If we were happy we wouldn’t need to buy half the crap advertisers tell us we need to so that we can be happy.

So much of our lives is already based on some type of conflict or another. We are told everyday that we don’t look enough, are teeth aren’t white enough, we don’t wear the right clothes, we don’t drive the right car, we don’t drink the right pop.

Companies make their money by telling us what is wrong with us and then telling us how THEY can fix it. Just turn on your TV and see. Open a magazine or newspaper and look at the ads.

Hasn’t it gone far enough?

I don’t know why we, as a society keep buying into it. Why we keep putting up with it.

I for one am fed up.

I want world peace. I want love, support and comfort in my life and believe me, I’m not going to listen to some multimillion dollar corporation on how to find it. They don’t know me.

No, instead I think I’ll take a walk out in the snow, and stop by the coop to say hello to my chickens on the way.

Sunday, January 3, 2010

A new year, new goals, and new changes!

A new year, new goals, and new changes!

Yes, I do plan on working on my blog and newsletter much more this year. It’s time to start bringing some new order to my life.

I am still waiting to hear back from my new agent (my former agent has left the business) on the last book I sent in. It has been over 5 months now, so hopefully I will hear something soon.

I hope everyone has had a happy and safe holiday season and that 2010 is your most prosperous year yet!


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This spring I do plan to start offering more classes and workshops both at my home and online, so keep an eye out for those.

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Readings
I am also looking for people who would like to receive a free reading. New year, new decks of tarot cards and other oracles! So I am looking for people I can do practice readings with to try these out. This month’s deck I am working with is The Wisdom of Avalon oracle. It interested please email me.

Writings and Contest!
My latest book Goodbye Grandmother is available through Wyrdwood Publications at http://www.wyrdwoodpublications.com/gg.htm.

Goodbye Grandmother is the story of eleven year old Hope who is getting ready to attend the Wiccan funeral rite of her beloved Grandmother. Although Hope has attended ritual with her family in the past and her mother is the High Priestess of the grove they practice with, this is the first time Hope has attended a funeral rite and is, needless to say, sad and nervous at the same time.
This story is intended for intermediate children readers as it does contain difficult situations that are harder for younger children to understand. As death is something that affects all of us at one time, or another, this is an important story for children to know there is someone else out there in the world that feels as they do. This is a story that parents should share with a child on it’s first reading, and can then be referred back to as a child goes through the grieving process of losing a loved one. Parts of the story can be read to younger children, with the parents editing out those sections they feel the need to pass on, depending on the age of the child.

Anyone who purchases a copy of Goodbye Grandmother will be entered into a drawing for a free autographed copy of The Pocket Guide to Rituals. Simply go to the above website, purchase a copy of Goodbye Grandmother for $4.99. Send me an email at kerri.connor@mchsi.com with confirmation of your purchase and you will be entered into the drawing. The drawing will take place on February 28, 2010.


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